Home Is The New School: Importance of Social-Emotional Learning (Webinar for Parents) - Free Educational videos for Students in K-12

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00:06	welcome , everybody . I'm Ed Rogoff . I'm ,
00:09	uh , an adviser to Lou Most learning . And
00:14	I should say that my involvement with limos learning goes
00:17	back to when the founder of Lou Most learning was
00:21	a student of mine in an n b a class
00:24	. And he , um , had a young Children
00:29	who were preparing for state exams in , um in
00:34	New Jersey and the preparation materials that the school was
00:39	giving very little to do with the exam that his
00:42	kids had to take at the end of the term
00:46	. And he said , Somebody should create materials that
00:49	are relevant for what the kids need , and that
00:51	was the start of Blue most learning , which is
00:54	about 13 years ago . And , um , Mukunda
00:57	, who I assume is on this call somewhere ,
01:00	um , has been a dedicated serious leader in building
01:07	this company , expanding its products And , um ,
01:12	you know , being committed to the mission of ,
01:14	uh , of of helping helping students . So this
01:19	, uh , program is an expansion of a series
01:24	of programs that we ran for principles and district superintendents
01:29	on issues of distance learning and technology . And after
01:35	we did that , I think it was a series
01:37	of five . Um , and they were well received
01:41	. We said maybe we should do something for parents
01:44	. And so this is the first in our series
01:46	of , uh , of programs for parents to cover
01:51	relevant issues for distance and hybrid learning in this new
01:56	environment . And , uh , it will be this
02:00	will be posted on the luminous website like the other
02:04	, like the other programmes we created . So people
02:07	can access them any time . And that's turned out
02:10	to be a successful , um , thing . Many
02:15	people have accessed those ones that we did already ,
02:18	and I'm sure that will be true about this .
02:21	So this program is about what can really we set
02:26	out to say , What can we tell parents in
02:30	an hour that will help them the best way possible
02:35	to support their child's success in this environment of ,
02:41	uh , of distance and and hybrid hybrid learning .
02:47	And towards that end , we have three fantastic experts
02:52	who have agreed to join us and to share their
02:55	wisdom and experience , and I'm going to give them
03:00	the briefest possible introductions . Asked them to , um
03:06	expand on their backgrounds as they relate to this if
03:10	if they want . But Maureen Healy is our first
03:15	speaker , and , um , she's an author .
03:19	She's , uh , you know , um , written
03:22	on on these topics and , you know , I
03:26	common speaker a frequent speaker , I should say ,
03:30	Dr . Newton Miller , um , gonna talk about
03:33	goal setting and managing the process . And Megan Tenny
03:37	, who's gonna talk about home schooling . Um ,
03:40	and she's got a very interesting , uh , background
03:45	and experience with this . And in essence , uh
03:49	, covid and hybrid learning has made all of us
03:53	into home schoolers at least some of the time .
03:58	So what are we gonna cover ? We're gonna try
04:01	to cover all these topics in an hour , promoting
04:05	social emotional learning , uh , communicating with teachers .
04:10	Um , what ? Free tools and learning resources are
04:13	available that parents want to avail themselves of , um
04:18	, what available financial support there is how to manage
04:22	the process of learning at home and , uh ,
04:25	were applicable supporting special ed requirements , which is a
04:30	huge issue in this in this environment . So ,
04:35	Maureen , with the minimal introduction , I'm gonna hand
04:39	it off to you to , um , you know
04:43	, talk about these issues of dealing with socio social
04:48	emotional issues with with , um , educating your kids
04:55	participating in educating your child from home . So welcome
05:00	, Maureen . Thank you . And I appreciate it
05:02	. Let's see , what can I say ? My
05:04	background is Children's emotional health and development . I have
05:09	worked with parents and Children around the world . My
05:12	last book is the emotionally healthy child , and ,
05:15	uh , I work a lot with in the classroom
05:17	with teachers and with parents regarding learning styles and learning
05:21	differences , as well as how , How do we
05:23	build that emotional and social intelligence in the classroom ,
05:27	whether it's at home or whether it's distance or whether
05:29	it's in hybrid education ? Right now , we're dealing
05:32	with lots of different things . Um , so that's
05:35	that's my background . And I write for psychology today
05:39	and there's lots of different , um , specific concepts
05:43	I drill down in , but we can go to
05:45	the next line . Okay , great . So social
05:49	emotional learning . So I just wanted to give an
05:52	overview of the concept of emotional health and then drill
05:55	into strategies and I'll take any questions that pop in
05:58	. I'm happy to take them and answer them on
06:00	the fly . That's always , from my perspective ,
06:03	the really interesting . You know , I think we
06:06	get the most out of question so so emotional .
06:09	Health is really the skill of balance . So the
06:12	idea is that , you know , just because of
06:14	living were thrown off balance and the idea of helping
06:18	students and parents and Children , we want to build
06:22	that emotional intelligence so that self awareness . So what
06:26	are emotions , you know ? And then , ultimately
06:28	, what do we do with them ? So in
06:30	your ideal scenario , they're doing part of that at
06:33	school . Um , but I know that in the
06:35	distance , learning it presents a unique challenge because ,
06:39	you know , there might be two or three people
06:40	in the same room with headsets doing work and school
06:44	, and Mom's managing three kids or Dad's managing two
06:48	kids or however it's working out . There's a lot
06:50	of different pieces of the puzzle , but the idea
06:53	is that we want to help Children identify their emotions
06:57	and learn how to express them constructively . And ,
07:00	uh , that's different for a kindergartner than it is
07:04	for high school student . And it's different from middle
07:06	schooler versus a college student , so being able to
07:10	really help kids early on , um , and I
07:14	also think from my own personal perspective , and this
07:16	may not be a popular thought . But I really
07:19	do believe there's no academic emergency right now . We
07:22	are really in a global health crisis and a financial
07:25	crisis . And , um , if I look at
07:28	the upside the potential silver lining of the pandemic ,
07:32	it could be that we're helping our Children learn how
07:34	to be more resilient . We're helping them learn how
07:36	to be stronger from the inside out . So there
07:39	are a lot of teachable moments whether it's helping a
07:43	child identify the discomfort of wearing a mask or the
07:47	discomfort of being on Zoom or helping them create a
07:50	space , whether it's a physical space or an emotional
07:53	space where they feel like there are some things that
07:55	they can focus on , that they can control .
07:58	Whether it's you know , they're they're you know ,
08:00	some things are clearly out of their control , But
08:02	how do we help them in this present moment ,
08:05	You know , stay as calm as possible and make
08:07	good choices and engage in school . I mean ,
08:10	I know that that is part of the difficulty is
08:12	staying tuned in when you can mute people , or
08:16	when you know when , when you can just walk
08:18	away and say I've had plenty of students have worked
08:20	with recently . They just say when they've had enough
08:22	at school , they just slam down the laptop and
08:24	say There must have been a technical difficulty . So
08:27	I get it . There's some There's a low level
08:29	of frustration . So this is where I think that
08:32	, you know , it's not about doing more per
08:34	se . It's just sort of the low hanging fruit
08:36	. What are the tools that we can help ourselves
08:39	and our Children ? Because I'm a big believer that
08:42	Children mirror our own experience . So if we're angry
08:46	and frustrated , they're going to pick up on that
08:47	and then send it back to us even bigger .
08:50	So we want to do our best to stay calm
08:52	and remember that , Okay , we you know ,
08:54	one moment to the next moment . Let's not like
08:56	speed ahead . Let's do the right thing , and
08:58	these are big choices . I know that we have
09:00	to make so whether our kids go back to school
09:02	or whether we continue distance learning . These are really
09:04	big choices , and there's no right choice . You
09:07	have to just choose what's right for your family and
09:10	and using this time constructively to be able to help
09:15	Children really learn how to recognize that they are bigger
09:19	than their feelings , whether they were on hot with
09:21	anger , you know , there's a child that would
09:23	be like irritated , annoyed , frustrated , then angry
09:27	, then mad . So learning how or they run
09:30	cold , right ? They disconnect , They get sad
09:32	, they get into a funk , you know ,
09:33	and it's not . We're not all one thing or
09:35	another . Our emotions come and go , but helping
09:38	them learn how to identify and express them and giving
09:41	them those tools . And since emotional health is a
09:44	lifelong endeavor , it's really not a box that we
09:48	check . You know , it's not like a to
09:49	eight or high school . You go . I did
09:51	that . I've done on there . I have to
09:52	do it again . It's like no one week .
09:54	We're learning tolerance . Another week . We're learning compassion
09:57	. Another week we're learning forgiveness . Another week is
09:59	conflict resolution , so it's learning together as a family
10:04	, creating a common language and helping your child or
10:07	Tween or teen identify it . And , you know
10:10	, maybe one child needs to go for a run
10:12	or one child needs to hit a punching bag ,
10:14	or one child needs to take deep breaths or one
10:16	child needs to walk away from the computer and have
10:20	a brain break . I'm a big believer that ,
10:23	you know we can sustain our attention like adults for
10:26	about 90 minutes if they're really good . But kids
10:29	, depending on their age and stage , is like
10:31	15 minutes , 20 minutes a half an hour .
10:33	You know , they really need frequent breaks , and
10:36	also they need , you know , they need a
10:39	way to restore themselves , whether it's to go outside
10:42	, take a few deep breaths , whether it's to
10:44	lay down with a pillow on their head , you
10:46	know , whatever helps them , whether they need to
10:48	go read . I think these are all ways that
10:51	we're helping them learn , not just for today ,
10:54	but what self care what emotional health is . What
10:56	is it doing ? The things you do today will
10:58	be planting the seeds for long term health and well
11:01	being , um , so navigating that and learn ,
11:05	I guess my point is that we want to learn
11:07	together . So I did have a family , you
11:10	know , because this is a stressful time . And
11:13	I said I recommended to them that they use ,
11:16	um what do you call it like three good things
11:19	, the scientific method of like every night , you
11:21	know , at the dinner table , why don't we
11:23	all go around and talk about three good things that
11:25	happened from the day ? And obviously there are days
11:27	where it's really easy . You're like I had pizza
11:29	. I went for a hike . I got to
11:31	go to the beach or I got to see my
11:33	friend . You know , there are days that it's
11:34	easy and there are other days that it's hard .
11:37	But they proved that after 28 days that your brain
11:40	starts to look for the good things that are happening
11:43	throughout . Um , throughout the day , you say
11:45	, Oh , wait , that's a good thing .
11:47	And those kind of small strategies are really helpful ,
11:51	not just for the child , but I could tell
11:53	when I was talking to the parents after they've done
11:54	it for two weeks like this has been really helpful
11:56	for us as adults , so we do have to
11:59	really train the mind and look for the constructive things
12:02	, even when it's a challenge . So regarding distance
12:05	learning in hybrid education , you know we want to
12:08	create a space where there are some good things in
12:10	it , right where there's a nice spot , where
12:12	there's some winds and to create something where we ,
12:16	you know , have some structure and there is some
12:19	flexibility . And then there are some strategies that your
12:21	child uses , and that's that's really , really important
12:25	. So I don't know if there's any questions that
12:28	came in or if anyone's thinking anything . I know
12:31	you probably all on mute , so I can't hear
12:33	you anyway . Um , but it did when I
12:37	throw it out there , Um , so I guess
12:40	again , from my standpoint , it's really the resilience
12:43	that's really important in building that resilience and those regular
12:48	strategies , whether it's taking deep breaths or , you
12:51	know , learning , learning , like my book and
12:53	the emotionally healthy child . They have a lot of
12:55	different strategies on how to identify and express emotions constructively
13:00	, and the first step is really working on self
13:02	awareness and mindfulness , just paying attention what's even happening
13:06	right now and then you know , having language to
13:08	talk about it or to express it constructively . Some
13:11	of us are more verbal than others when we're having
13:13	a big feeling , but giving a child tools at
13:16	their age and stage is really important . In particular
13:19	, there's a checklist I'll share . Now it's called
13:21	The Smart Choices Checklist , and the idea is that
13:25	a smart choices when it's good for you and good
13:27	for others . So if you're really angry and you
13:31	know I worked with a kid who was really angry
13:33	, she threw a notebook across the classroom and it
13:35	hit another kid . Obviously , that got rid of
13:38	her anger , but not really a good choice ,
13:40	because it hurts someone else . So you know ,
13:42	that's a choice . It's on a smart choice ,
13:44	so smart choices are good for you and good for
13:46	others . So I often work with kids and say
13:49	, Okay , when you're having a big feeling ,
13:50	what are your smart choices ? What can you do
13:52	at home list ? Three things . What can you
13:54	do in the classroom ? What we're here . What
13:56	can we do in the distance ? Classroom Women were
13:58	really feeling annoyed or agitated or frustrated . So the
14:02	idea is that you want to pre pay the path
14:04	and you want to help them before that moment occurs
14:07	. Recognize ? I could walk away . I could
14:10	throw water on my face in the bathroom . I
14:12	could get a sip of water like , What can
14:14	you do when you're having a big emotion ? Can
14:16	you take a five minute break ? How do you
14:19	handle that big frustration or challenging or irritations ? Because
14:23	we want to give kids those tools so they can
14:25	navigate it . And , um , it was funny
14:28	. I was visiting an old client of mine recently
14:31	, and , uh , you know , unbeknownst to
14:33	me , you know , his teacher didn't know ,
14:35	but he called her up even though he's doing distance
14:37	learning , saying , Hey , I have a friend
14:38	coming to visit me and she's coming from San Francisco
14:41	and can I , um , can I , you
14:44	know , skip class and meet with her , and
14:46	the teacher said , Of course , I think it's
14:47	really important for you to connect . I mean ,
14:49	the teacher didn't know it wasn't another 10 year old
14:51	boy . It was an adult . But the idea
14:54	that giving kids the tools and power to make some
14:57	choices on their own and then keep course correcting them
15:00	to keep moving in a positive direction is really our
15:03	role . And you know that includes sometimes you have
15:07	to say no to something , or sometimes you have
15:09	to navigate some tricky situations . But you know ,
15:12	the whole goal is building that resilience , that emotional
15:15	intelligence , keeping kids connected , learning and engaging in
15:19	a meaningful and purposeful way . I'm not a big
15:21	believer in just like school , just checking off time
15:24	, just , you know , doing your time in
15:26	school . I think you really need to stay engaged
15:28	and learn . And of course , experiential learning is
15:31	really important . But having direct experiences where you feel
15:34	like , Oh my God , they really see me
15:35	, I'm connected . I feel good is more important
15:38	than ever right now is a question about what is
15:44	what ? How should a parent handle it when the
15:47	schools where the teachers guidance is for the child to
15:52	spend hours a day online ? And that sort of
15:58	violates what the sensible , smart advice you're giving ,
16:01	which is attention spans ? You know , we all
16:04	have human attention spans , not computer attention spans .
16:08	Um , and , um , that there's no time
16:12	left for other constructive activities . So , you know
16:16	, where do you suggest they go with that when
16:18	they have the conflict between the schools , guidance and
16:23	sensible guidance ? Right , right . Yeah , it's
16:26	a really good question because , you know , every
16:29	situation is different every child is different , their learning
16:32	needs and personality and sort of threshold for what feels
16:36	appropriate . I mean , I can say that the
16:38	screen time has been an issue . It does impact
16:41	your nervous system . It does make you a little
16:43	more agitated after many , many hours online . So
16:47	I think that , um , if I was the
16:48	parent , I would be having a dialogue with the
16:51	school teacher and administrators and trying to oppose to ,
16:55	um , just focusing on it as a problem which
16:58	I get . See if we can problem solve anything
17:00	, see if there's any sort of accommodation or anything
17:03	that we can do that makes sense for you and
17:05	your child because we do want to have meaningful and
17:08	purposeful learning . And I think just spending time ,
17:11	hours and hours and hours and hours and hours online
17:13	isn't always helpful per se . And I would say
17:16	, and I would even say , Hey , listen
17:18	, you know this my son or daughter is X
17:20	y z they you know they are very sensitive to
17:22	this environment or , you know , could we go
17:25	online two hours and then get the homework assignments offline
17:28	and then report back to you because we want to
17:30	honor the with the goal of the school , which
17:33	is really to keep kids engaged and connected and learning
17:36	. But , you know , online doesn't work for
17:38	everyone all the time . So coming up with creative
17:40	solutions , I think is just part of this process
17:42	. This is you know , I think out of
17:45	the pandemic . When we get to the other side
17:46	, we will have so many more creative solutions in
17:48	life because the universe has forced us to do this
17:51	. And that includes Children . I mean , I
17:53	want to empower kids to be able to be appropriate
17:56	, but to voice like , Hey , this is
17:58	working for me or this isn't working for me .
18:00	How do we do that ? So I'm a big
18:02	believer in partnership . How do we partner and make
18:04	solutions ? So that would be my recommendation . Fantastic
18:08	. Yeah , I think also , you're focus on
18:12	building resilience during this period is a wonderful positive ,
18:18	uh , constructive approach tank . So that's that's fantastic
18:24	. Um , so , marine , if you're okay
18:26	, we'll move on to the next speaker . Yes
18:30	. Let's just go through the other slides quick .
18:32	And I probably don't have anything to say , but
18:34	let's just pop them in . Okay ? Yeah ,
18:37	no problem . Okay . The emotional language is more
18:43	just like making sure there was a language in the
18:45	home that we had were all speaking the same language
18:48	. And I guess from my the only other thing
18:50	I want to highlight from this slide is really emotional
18:53	. Health is flexibility . I know that we all
18:56	a lot of kids sometimes get step . You know
18:58	, they're stubborn or strong willed . And listen ,
19:00	I'm one of those people . And the upside is
19:03	that you can stay with problems longer and come up
19:05	with amazing solutions . But sometimes it's difficult when you
19:08	put your feet and say , I cannot do this
19:11	. It sort of doesn't help emotional health or emotion
19:13	. Intelligence . So another way to think of emotional
19:15	health besides the scale of balance is also to think
19:19	about your helping your son or daughter learned the skill
19:21	of flexibility and , of course , distance learning .
19:23	This is we've had to pivot . We've had to
19:25	be flexible . So that's just another thing to think
19:29	about . And I guess you know , my website
19:32	is growing happy kids dot com and I'm happy to
19:35	connect with people offline . If there's additional questions as
19:37	well . But I'm grateful , Ed , and you
19:40	can slide it to the next speaker . And ,
19:42	um , I think that this is a wonderful thing
19:44	for us to connect about . Terrific . No .
19:47	Fantastic . Thank you so much . Um , and
19:50	, uh , we may see if we , you
19:52	know , time permitting . We may circle back with
19:54	you with questions , but , you know , we
19:55	understand you . You need to jump off .

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